9.19.2011

PERFECT VERBAL COMMUNICATION

I’m writing this post because I have realized that many people don’t understand the basics of good communication. To illustrate, I will first tell you what good communication is not.

DON’T BE “THAT RUDE GUY”

I know some brilliant people who seem to be incapable of answering a yes or no question with less than 1000 words. I’m not exaggerating. If I ask a simple question, I expect a simple answer. If you ask me, “How you are doing?” I will not ramble on about myself for 20 minutes. That’s not a conversation, it’s just plain rude!

I know people who not only try to finish other people’s sentences for them, but also will interrupt someone in mid-sentence and start talking about themselves. That’s not a conversation, it’s just plain rude!
 
GUIDELINES FOR PERFECT VERBAL COMMUNICATION

If you are talking about yourself, your family, your hobby, or whatever, consider whether the person you are talking to is interested. They may just be listening out of politeness, but they really have no interest in your story. Think about it; put yourself in their place.

Keep it fair. Communication should be 50/50. Each person should be given the courtesy to share and contribute to the conversation. Nobody wants to be around someone who hijacks the conversation and makes it all about them.

Now go take on the day, and have great conversations.

Peace out.

6 comments:

  1. This reminds me of the line from the movie Pulp Fiction. And I paraphrase: "Do you listen, or do you wait to talk?"

    Well Duane.. I am guilty, guilty, aaaaaaaaaaaaaand guilty.

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  2. Hi Lizzy,
    Oh no, sorry if you feel like I shined a spotlight on you. LOL :D I hope people find some value in this post.
    Thanks for reading and commenting.
    Peace, Duane

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  3. Value? Yep... These are things worth thinking about.... And every time I fill up my water bottle at work, I am reminded of you....

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  4. Hahaha! That's cool! =)
    Have a great day!

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  5. Some good advice Duane. My only problem is listening to people ramble on about stuff I'd rather cut my wrists than listen to. I'm good at faking it, but it's very hard sometimes to avoid shouting "I'm not interested in your ideas on dandruff prevention or plastic guttering! Begone from my sight you worthless wretch!" :-)

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  6. Hey Jeff,
    Hahahaha! I know what you mean! I have had similar thoughts. I love your response! =)

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