Learning the Hard Way

I’ve always had to learn things the hard way. When I was little my mother told me "Don’t touch the stove, it’s hot." So naturally, I had to touch it to see if she was right. She was.

As I got older, I continued to use this learning method.

When I was in high school, I learned the hard way that a car never wins a fight with a tree.

When I was in my 30’s, I read an investment book that said, "95% of all commodity traders lose money, a lot of money." So I decided to trade commodities. I did well in the beginning. I actually made a few hundred dollars before I crashed and burned. I learned the hard way that the book I had read was right. I lost what was to me, a huge amount of money.

There were many other examples of me learning things the hard way but that’s enough for now. Why am I telling you all of this? I wanted you to know that I’m not perfect and I don’t always do everything right. I have done some really stupid things in the past. The thing is, every lesson I have learned the hard way has stuck with me. I thank God for these lessons. They have made me who I am today. I have learned to take risks, and I have learned that it’s OK to fail once in awhile. It’s all part of growing and learning, and gaining wisdom.

How about you? Do you usually play it safe? Or do you sometimes have to touch the stove to see if it really is hot?

Now go take on the day!

Peace, out.

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  1. Hi Duane. To me, this post makes me think of my past relationships. Before I got married I didn't always make the best choices in relation to the people I chose to spend time with. That is to say, I had some BAD relationships. However, as I have told my husband, I do not regret a single one of them because I feel that I learned a great deal from each person. In a lot of cases it was rough and emotionally draining, but an important learning experience nonetheless.

  2. Hi Jessica,
    I know what you mean. That is a perfect example. I'm glad your past relationships helped you become a more positive, happy person. Life can be amazing that way.
    Thanks for your comments. Have a great day!